Most people who have been around me much would say that I am a hard worker with a great attitude and perfectionist tendencies. I have served as a leader in many capacities, both professional and personal. By God’s grace, I have done pretty well in life as far as success can be measured.
In mid-2014 I left a very satisfying, rewarding job in the 8-5 corporate world to take on a new role. Now, nobody ever said being a stay-at-home mom and housewife was easy, but I figured that I had done okay so far in life so I’d probably get the hang of my new job pretty quickly. Most of homemaking is intuitive, anyway, right?
Now I am going to open up and tell you one big secret.
I dropped the ball.
This hard-working former professional now found herself falling short. Wayyyy short. I was in my PJs until noon many days, and some days I didn’t go any further than the mailbox. My dear husband would call to say he was coming home from work, and only then would I begin to wonder what I could pull together for dinner. No planning, whatsoever. I would frequently forget to pay bills, and there were stacks of papers and piles of clutter everywhere.
I dropped the ball.
This is the part where I pick it up again. You see, I am working through this as we speak and I don’t have it all together yet. But I have a vision now, and I am going to run with it.
I am a capable woman, and so are you. Yet somehow, that great work ethic, organization, and positive go-getter attitude didn’t follow me home from the office. In my first year of homemaking I cast off restraint and just “went with the flow”, expecting that I would naturally begin to fill my new roles. The result was that my life, my home, my time, and my relationships looked nothing like I had expected them to. Feeling like I’d dug myself into a pit, I started devouring resources that could help me get back onto even ground. As I did so, I had a sort of epiphany.
This is my job now.
I left a job with a paycheck so that I could devote myself to taking care of my family and our home. This is my new employment. This is what I do, and it is important.
What would my days at home look like if I managed my home with the same sense of responsibility, duty, organization, leadership, and pride I displayed in my professional career?
A wise man, King Solomon, caught the essence of it right here in the book of Proverbs in the Bible:
10Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?
She is more precious than rubies.
11 Her husband can trust her,
and she will greatly enrich his life.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life…
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity,
and she laughs without fear of the future.
26 When she speaks, her words are wise,
and she gives instructions with kindness.
27 She carefully watches everything in her household
and suffers nothing from laziness.
28 Her children stand and bless her.
Her husband praises her:
29 “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,
but you surpass them all!”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;
but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.
(Proverbs 31:10-30, New Living Translation).
This blog is a place to share ideas and strategies for managing our homes, with the goal of equipping us to truly live out this noble calling. It’s a paradigm shift from homemaking as something that we casually step into, to active, intentional, dare I say “professional” home management. I will hereafter refer to this career as “Home Management”, because I want each of us to feel the weight of what we do. We are professionals working long hours to meet tight deadlines, juggle many tasks, serve demanding clients, and support a valuable, rewarding mission on the home front. What we do will have an eternal impact on the lives we touch. And so, as I start my new job as Home Manager, won’t you join me?